Wednesday, December 7, 2016

God Is Just Like Any Other Dad! (Except, well...He's God.) - Chapter Fourteen

14. The Three-In-One

          The concept from the end of the last chapter – that the Lord somehow suffered through the crucifixion from BOTH perspectives, as Father AND Son, is on the surface not only bizarre but counterintuitive for humans to grasp with our mortal, linear way of thinking.

One of the hardest things for humans to grasp is the very concept of the Holy Trinity the Three-In-One Godhead, the Father/Son/Holy Spirit. There are false sects of Christianity which don’t know how to deal with this difficult Reality, and so they don’t – those who try to argue that Jesus must have been mortal, or that God existed solely within Christ’s body instead of on high for the length of Jesus’ earthly ministry, or (here’s the wildest one to me) that somehow Jesus’ “God-hood” departed Him moments before He “died” on the cross. OR, they’ll blaspheme the other direction, and argue that there are simply three separate entities ruling the cosmos – that God the Father is completely separate, distinct and discrete from God the Son, and from God the Spirit. Both positions are not only inaccurate but deny one of the most basic tenets of Christianity, and as such neither can rationally be called Christianity at all.

          But just because we don’t completely understand something doesn’t mean that it’s not true. (See: Physics, Quantum.) God is Three, and God is One.

          Many analogies have been put forth to help our poor mortal minds cope with this seemingly contradictory concept, but in keeping with the purpose of this book, let me give an example that I think is not all that far from reality:
          Think of a husband and wife.

          An aside: Don’t try to stretch this analogy too far, or it’ll snap – I’m not saying that either God or Christ are filling the male or female roles per se, nor is God Almighty strictly speaking anthropomorphic and gendered at all, even though we almost universally refer to “Him” as male.

          Here’s the analogy: Within a marriage, a husband and wife are individuals, two people who work together for usually common and agreed-on purposes. But outside of the marriage, the married couple is often treated like a single entity“Mr. and Mrs. So-And-So”. In a strong marriage, working with either spouse should be much like working with the other – “Whom God has joined together, let no man tear asunder.” Our children used to honestly claim that my late wife and I were somehow symbiotic, because anything they told one of us, even in passing, the other one seemed to automatically know. In a court of law, in fact, not only are you not required to testify against yourself, your spouse is similarly not required to testify against you, so seriously do we take that legal bond of marriage.
          In Genesis 2:24, the Lord says of the first marriage, “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh.” Far from being the first dirty joke, God means that the two of them are literally to be considered as one unit. The wife is to obey the husband’s every decision, BUT the husband is to make every decision with his wife’s interest foremost in his mind, so that the couple’s decisions are going to be made in harmony with both individuals’ beneficial interests. (At least, in a good, Godly marriage. Not every human marriage fits that description, I realize.) Here’s the passage in Ephesians 5:22-31 where Paul addresses this very subject – notice the parallel he draws between the marriage of husband and wife, and the marriage of Christ and the church – very much along the same lines of our present discussion:
22Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. 23For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. 24Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands.
25Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, 26that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, 27so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. 28In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as Christ does the church, 30because we are members of his body. 31“Therefore a man shall leave his father and mother and hold fast to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.”
          This giving-receiving nature of the marriage partnership, this sacrifice for one another quality holds Biblically even in matters of the flesh, as we see in First Corinthians 7:2-5 à

2But because of the temptation to sexual immorality, each man should have his own wife and each woman her own husband. 3The husband should give to his wife her conjugal rights, and likewise the wife to her husband. 4For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does. Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. 5Do not deprive one another, except perhaps by agreement for a limited time, that you may devote yourselves to prayer; but then come together again, so that Satan may not tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

How does this relate to the Trinity?
          From the outside, we see the Godhead as more or less indivisible – if you didn’t live in first century Samaria, you probably never saw Jesus Christ in the flesh, and so to you (and to me), the members of the Holy Trinity are all “out there” and “inside me” and “all around us”, more or less indistinguishable from each other. We pray to all three (or at least I do), and while we credit different faces for different aspects of our lives – for example, we might praise God the Father for the magnificent sunrise, Christ for intervening in a difficult situation for us, and the Spirit for guiding us through a rough meeting at work – we’re still likely to describe all three events to friends as a “God-thing”.

          But within the Godhead, we see countless examples throughout the Bible of the different “aspects” of God communicating and interacting with each other, the most striking example being at the baptism of Jesus in (among other places in the Gospels) Matthew 3:16-17 à

And when Jesus was baptized, immediately He went up from the water, and behold, the heavens were opened to Him, and He saw the Spirit of God descending like a dove and coming to rest on Him; and behold, a voice from heaven said, “This is my beloved Son, with whom I am well pleased.”

All three members of the Trinity appear (settling the question, by the way, of the existence of three separate entities). You and your spouse are separate entities as well, of course. But we treat the Trinity as one interconnected God in virtually every situation. Your children need to treat the two of you as one interconnected partnership, and you need to work together as one interconnected partnership.

If your child(ren) can play the “if Mommy says it’s okay, can we?” game against the two of you? You two have some work to do.
If your child(ren) know which one of you to ask to get the answer they want? You two have some work to do.
If your child(ren) don’t get essentially the same “fear/love” vibe from both of you? You two have some work to do.
If either of you has a reason to vent to someone besides your partner about your partner? You two have some work to do.
If either of you has more interest in your hobby or job or outside interest than in your partner? You two have some work to do.
If either of you cares more about your child(ren) than your partner? Believe it or not, you two have some work to do.
If either of you has any interest in other partners outside the marriage? You two have some serious work to do.
Any conflict between you and your spouse takes place outside of your children’s sight – the two of you are a team with a unified goal.
The successful raising of your children.

As partners.

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